so this is Xmas?

Well it is that time of year again...when we set unrealistic expectations about family closeness, spend more than we have on things we do not need and are deluged with consumerism equates love and happiness propaganda.

I don't hate Xmas, I, like most people in the western world, fall under the warm and fuzzy spell of good will toward men and peace on earth...blah blah blah...you know the tune. But really this time of the year is the hardest on the poor...as Dickens reflects they feel their want more especially in this time of excess. We as a culture try to make ourselves feel better about our indulgences by giving to the poor this time of year. By giving I mean very controlled close ended giving that rips away the power of low income people. We feel good, they feel powerless,dependent and choke down with bitter gratitude that can only come with lose of control.

The wonderful charity minded people give, it makes them feel good...those in need take it because it is necessary. But relying on charity to put food on the table and have a little warmth and comfort around the holidays is a bitter pill. It is hard to let others choose the gifts you will give your children, the food you will feed yourself - you are grateful but it also robs you of your power. If we truly believed that people had a right to these things then begging should not be required - money could be given so families could choose for themselves how they would celebrate - if they choose to...if you do not trust that they will make good decisions you should keep your money.

Truth is not everyone has family or friends, enough food or presents or a warm home or even a small measure of comfort..so be kind, be generous, be nonjudgmental and have a happy holidays...as the world may end on Friday Dec 21...might be a moot point anyway - bah humbug!